'People change when they fall in love'- well, this is a line which is applied to people in love ( we'll call them PIL henceforth). The listening to romantic songs, reading sloppy romantic books, being that happy person, who dances and sings in joy from the movies.. ugh!
But the 'change' I am talking about is the way these PIL start behaving with their closest friends. I mean, okay, i understand that you are in love, that he/she is now your life, and you need to spend time with the boy/ girl of your dreams etc etc. But you don't have to spend every waking hour of your 'busy' lives talking with just them! What about your friends? The people who were there for you when you Lover didn't even exist in your life! And now you forget them? The people who helped you get to that boy or girl. Selfish. These PIL haven't got time for their friends, as they are continuously 24*7 messaging, talking to their better halves with those awkward nicknames at the end. You don't have time to check out about your friend's life, their problems (yes! P-not-IL DO have problems too!) and then you blame them for not being in touch. You egocentric people!
The fact is that these people don't realise the pain these Friends go through when they are alone and wish to talk to you, need your opinion regarding something (without that meaningless mock followed by more meaningless laughter by your better half who's also on the line! "yes I support my love even when he/she is downright stupid!"). They don't get time to talk to you alone coz you are obviously with him/her and they feel guilty coz they think they barged into you two and back out, sacrificing themselves and you don't even look! The friends learn to live without those jerks, turning to some other stranger in hope that he/ she would take your place of BestFriend and end up getting their hearts broken. They keep going through the memories of fun you'll had together. They get jealous, because they know that they have been replaced. Friends can't even complain you know- coz they are supposed to shut their mouths, live in the unhappiness and at the same time be extremely happy for the joyful, in-love couple... :(
Don't forget your friends when you fall in love. Please. Its a cruel, bad, terrible thing to do. Just be there for them as they were and always will for you.
To make it simple, consider it as give and take....
It is your moral obligation to give this time...
But the 'change' I am talking about is the way these PIL start behaving with their closest friends. I mean, okay, i understand that you are in love, that he/she is now your life, and you need to spend time with the boy/ girl of your dreams etc etc. But you don't have to spend every waking hour of your 'busy' lives talking with just them! What about your friends? The people who were there for you when you Lover didn't even exist in your life! And now you forget them? The people who helped you get to that boy or girl. Selfish. These PIL haven't got time for their friends, as they are continuously 24*7 messaging, talking to their better halves with those awkward nicknames at the end. You don't have time to check out about your friend's life, their problems (yes! P-not-IL DO have problems too!) and then you blame them for not being in touch. You egocentric people!
The fact is that these people don't realise the pain these Friends go through when they are alone and wish to talk to you, need your opinion regarding something (without that meaningless mock followed by more meaningless laughter by your better half who's also on the line! "yes I support my love even when he/she is downright stupid!"). They don't get time to talk to you alone coz you are obviously with him/her and they feel guilty coz they think they barged into you two and back out, sacrificing themselves and you don't even look! The friends learn to live without those jerks, turning to some other stranger in hope that he/ she would take your place of BestFriend and end up getting their hearts broken. They keep going through the memories of fun you'll had together. They get jealous, because they know that they have been replaced. Friends can't even complain you know- coz they are supposed to shut their mouths, live in the unhappiness and at the same time be extremely happy for the joyful, in-love couple... :(
Don't forget your friends when you fall in love. Please. Its a cruel, bad, terrible thing to do. Just be there for them as they were and always will for you.
To make it simple, consider it as give and take....
It is your moral obligation to give this time...
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